tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-479371371212305020.comments2023-05-28T05:16:24.334-04:00The Father FactorRoland Warrenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03950298999478536463noreply@blogger.comBlogger606125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-479371371212305020.post-1498319153165113002012-05-16T23:49:25.899-04:002012-05-16T23:49:25.899-04:00Thanks for the perspective shift. Wow...college se...Thanks for the perspective shift. Wow...college seems so far away...the mommy psychologisthttp://www.themommypsychologist.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-479371371212305020.post-90638066324616892632012-05-16T23:35:58.932-04:002012-05-16T23:35:58.932-04:00It's a shame about Mr. Seau. As a marriage and...It's a shame about Mr. Seau. As a marriage and family counselor for The Marriage and Family Clinic in Denver, CO I agree wholeheartedly that oftentimes men view "the wife and kids" as one package and when divorce occurs, it devastates the fathers who feel alienated from their children and a piece of them become missing. Mr. Seau will always be remembered. I pray for the best for his family.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06708043606759633116noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-479371371212305020.post-79132717321348730292012-05-16T12:36:40.501-04:002012-05-16T12:36:40.501-04:00This interview reflects the lack of responsibility...This interview reflects the lack of responsibility that our society still requires of fathers. Unless you are a dad in a committed loving relationship with your kids' mother, the court system and the laws of our society are stacked against you being an involved parent. In this case he chose not to be involved because the system let him off the hook. This is a lame attempt for this aging actor to grovel in front of the national media for attention and to make himself feel good. He needs to get out there and do something.<br /><br />One would have thought that the parents of the '60s and '70's would have, by now, been able to change the rules of the '50s parenting, but alas...<br /><br />Posting this piece on this website only degrades the mission of NFI.mastedonnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-479371371212305020.post-30852819627649581802012-05-15T23:54:27.394-04:002012-05-15T23:54:27.394-04:00Very nice post. I just stumbled upon your blog and...Very nice post. I just stumbled upon your blog and wanted to mention that I've truly enjoyed browsing your blog posts.Tom@Rumah Dijualhttp://www.propertykita.com/rumah.htmlnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-479371371212305020.post-48616224003815563472012-05-15T15:57:55.088-04:002012-05-15T15:57:55.088-04:00if chris brown had him he wouldnt have done some o...if chris brown had him he wouldnt have done some of the things he did. pls get over rihanna thing she and her family forgave him. i will always see the best and stop trying to get dirt on him (if you no what i mean)chris brown is talented so many ways he sings the music we listen to is the only thing that matters. TEAM Breezy i love you chris brown always have and always will:)jenniferDM12http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_detailpage&v=tvt6y-LB1O8noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-479371371212305020.post-71716370683088687912012-05-14T18:18:17.560-04:002012-05-14T18:18:17.560-04:00Very uplifting. We need to be recalibrated from ti...Very uplifting. We need to be recalibrated from time to time about what matters most.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-479371371212305020.post-64739927922188058582012-05-14T04:17:49.262-04:002012-05-14T04:17:49.262-04:00Maybe Huggies should have been spying on those Dad...Maybe Huggies should have been spying on those Dads including myself who'd not only bought but regularly changed the diapers anywhere. Obviously most traditional fathers were against this like my Father who'd tell me it's not your job. Well, I would've thought he'd be proud of me for doing so. Nevertheless, glad I did.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-479371371212305020.post-12607822366917839642012-05-11T06:09:51.845-04:002012-05-11T06:09:51.845-04:00The sound of the plot sounds like a complete kids ...The sound of the plot sounds like a complete kids movie (and the audience of the showing I attended would prove that claim), but there is more to this film than meets the eye. Director Cameron Crowe (one of my favorites) co-writes a wonderful screenplay full of engaging, fun characters, based on the true life story of Benjamin Mee, a man who decided to purchase a run-down zoo, fix it up, and re-open it. Matt Damon, Colin Ford (who they did a wonderful job as casting as Damon's son as he looks just like a younger version of Damon), and Elle Fanning are the stars of this film, and while the animals and kids may seem like the focus, it is the relationships and life issues that take center stage. The film has that particular heartwarming magic that is infused in nearly all of Crowe's films, which is so appealing to me; it also features one of the best music scores of the year by Jonsi (of Sigur Ros). I don't know if this is exactly for kids 'cause there are lots of grown-up, dramatic moments (and they might get bored), but it's a film I'd see over and over.Ceskahttp://findingselfbelief.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-479371371212305020.post-43847631349741892512012-05-10T22:34:04.804-04:002012-05-10T22:34:04.804-04:00What I think is sad is how blind Ms. Suleman is to...What I think is sad is how blind Ms. Suleman is to the effect of the culture on her, but she's still able to make a choice. She's still able to choose something other than adult entertainment to fund her life. Many of us live in the culture, but choose not to be of the culture. I'm a dad of three daughters. I'm going to help them understand that they have a choice.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-479371371212305020.post-23906013800116619152012-05-10T14:27:52.000-04:002012-05-10T14:27:52.000-04:00I am a single dad & not by choice. Why is all...I am a single dad & not by choice. Why is all of this "fatherless America" being blamed on men/dads. Most of the dads I know are extremely devoted to their kids. Sure there is some of the opposite, but why are dads always fingered? My review of the stats show that 80% of divorces are filed by women. And why not? The courts make it extremely favorable for them. With stats like that and stories like this, who is really making children "fatherless in America?"coachb61https://www.blogger.com/profile/12255020848938967180noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-479371371212305020.post-50279358223712577082012-05-03T12:51:45.187-04:002012-05-03T12:51:45.187-04:00Ugh...first, it was a bit hard to watch because hi...Ugh...first, it was a bit hard to watch because his admission did seem genuine. He does seem to honestly realize that he screwed some things up. I've been talking about the difference that has occurred in my son's behavior since his dad started taking more of an authoritative role rather than just being "fun dad." My husband says all the time that no matter how great a mother is, no woman can teach a boy who to be a man....Just something to think about. Here's one of the posts on dad stepping up to the plate for anyone who is interested:<br /><br />http://www.themommypsychologist.com/2012/04/30/dads-taken-over-control-and-its-working/the mommy psychologisthttp://www.themommypsychologist.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-479371371212305020.post-4451860549902155982012-05-02T19:52:20.788-04:002012-05-02T19:52:20.788-04:00I've been married for 34 years and still going...I've been married for 34 years and still going strong even though we had our up and down. Naturally mother's love for her children is unconditional. But sometimes she's so engrossed in her children that she forgot her attention to her husband and that is bad for the marriage. Husband should love his wife more and that will set good example for the children. Father loves his children too. But how much? We can never measure. It's very subjective. The love we show to our children and spouses are varied from one person to another, from one marriage to another. Love, responsibility, caring, give and take cannot go without in good marriages. So I think there's some truth in what Keith said.myfarahnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-479371371212305020.post-67282628947460820422012-04-25T22:05:29.828-04:002012-04-25T22:05:29.828-04:00Why does the mom need to have received life insura...Why does the mom need to have received life insurance from a deceased husband to afford a nice house? Well apart from women earning only 77 cents to every dollar a man earns... I applaud the excellent fathers on this site but families come in all forms, and single moms and dads are very capable.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-479371371212305020.post-76340532028121080932012-04-25T21:07:26.230-04:002012-04-25T21:07:26.230-04:00I found myself at this page because I was searchin...I found myself at this page because I was searching for other people's thoughts on the healthy order for relationships when it comes to spouse and children. I appreciate all of the excellent comments! My situation is a bit more challenging in that I AM the single mom raising two teenagers without much interaction from the dad. I am the one who chose to end the marriage because of anger issues with their dad and as difficult as that was to do, I know it was the right thing to do under the circumstances. I had stayed in the marriage for 20 years hoping the anger issues would get resolved but in fact they got worse. In hindsight I can see that the more I pulled away from my spouse, the more I put my children first, and therefore the more frustration and anger my spouse demonstrated. So I have first hand experience at being the mom that gave more affection and attention to my kids when perhaps I should have made more effort to focus on my spouse. Maybe that would have helped curtail his temper...I will never know. Now four years later, I am a FIRM believer that the spouse MUST come first. I am entering into a second marriage with teenage/young adult children on both sides and we are in the process of aligning these values so we can be a strong marriage model for both of our sets of children even if they have not had the benefit of seeing that healthy marriage model from their natural parents. I agree with all of the logic that from a healthy parent relationship (or parent-stepparent relationship) the kids will feel loved, respected, and capable of modeling that healthy relationship in their own future relationships. We all make mistakes, and I own up to mine, I just plan to LEARN from my mistakes!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-479371371212305020.post-41542257365996536822012-04-23T12:06:13.064-04:002012-04-23T12:06:13.064-04:00AMEN BROTHER!!!
My wife chose to walk and the Cou...AMEN BROTHER!!!<br /><br />My wife chose to walk and the Courts gave her custody and me visitaion. I asked for more time and she refused. Then she tells me that if I want more time with the kids to be a man and make the time.<br /><br />NOTHING will change to correct this injustice forced upon fathers, until the Family Court system is overhauled.<br /><br />Blue October's latest album 'Any Man in America' details the lead singers experience in US Family Courts. Two lyric in particular stand out...'Women run the courts, men pay the chips..."..."Pay the price but don't get to be the dad..." drive this point home.RJhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05460477045753448866noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-479371371212305020.post-74032263942753342282012-04-23T11:58:57.352-04:002012-04-23T11:58:57.352-04:00I love how fathers are encouraged to remain a part...I love how fathers are encouraged to remain a part of the daughters life. Now if only family courts could get that same thought pattern. Fathers are pushed away from their children and replaced with money, the family car, and whatever else the courts deem appropriate. <br /><br />I survived a divorce in which prior to finalization, I had more time with my kids. Now I am paying more and have less time with them. Their morther refused to allow me more time and the courts supported it.<br /><br />I call, text, and email daily in an attempt to remain a presence...but I can recite their outgoing voicemail message by heart. A father can do everythign within his power to remain, but the kids have to assume some responsibility in maintaining the relationship as well.<br /><br />Merely the humble opinion of...A Fatehr of two...and a Dad to none.RJhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05460477045753448866noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-479371371212305020.post-11323983072006352612012-04-21T19:08:52.361-04:002012-04-21T19:08:52.361-04:00Alright, now that I have wiped away my tears, I ca...Alright, now that I have wiped away my tears, I can add my own comments. <br /><br />I find it so refreshing and fulfilling to know that there are other Dads out there like me. I was a single Dad for almost 16 years and now I am a new Dad over forty. My "babies" are 26, 24, 6, 4 and 3 and I have always tried. That, to me, is the answer to being a good Dad: try.<br /><br />My friend, you have come up with a wonderful way to try. Heroes, huh? I bet that you will always be a hero to your kids. <br /><br />Stan Reese<br />author, "Relax Dad, It's Just the Kitchen"Stan Reesehttp://www.relaxdad.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-479371371212305020.post-46251352904100324812012-04-18T04:22:37.578-04:002012-04-18T04:22:37.578-04:00this is so beautiful. I grew up without a dad real...this is so beautiful. I grew up without a dad really, your love for your daughter is absolutely amazing. I get teary eyed just thinking about how much she won't have to go through, and how much more love she has from her father. <br />God bless the both of you!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-479371371212305020.post-42622366535744547472012-04-15T11:26:05.668-04:002012-04-15T11:26:05.668-04:00I'm a single mother that's has yet to have...I'm a single mother that's has yet to have to explain to my son why he doesn't have a dad...movie like this make it a little easier for me cause it is the sad truth how not every family is perfect...he can see how just having a mom is just as good as having the whole package...I would hare to have to see it always thrown in his face that everone has both their parents and he doesn't....I totally support Disney for making every movie different in that way<br />Kathykatyohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09311156780844800685noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-479371371212305020.post-30434484656667383112012-04-14T18:20:34.393-04:002012-04-14T18:20:34.393-04:00Roland, I have the same question about Andy's ...Roland, I have the same question about Andy's dad but also Sid's and Bonnie's. No dad in Toy Story!MarieGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16308949014428981225noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-479371371212305020.post-12813369530722890722012-04-14T17:42:53.143-04:002012-04-14T17:42:53.143-04:00don't forget all the parenting websites that f...don't forget all the parenting websites that focus only on mums, including one that recently held a competition for mums to win a book that has a go at dads. <br />Oh and i'm the mum of a single dad and i see the shite that is thrown at him for choosing to be the primary carer of his kids.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-479371371212305020.post-30117668975354865322012-04-14T01:31:06.218-04:002012-04-14T01:31:06.218-04:00It is already hard parenting kids and teens togeth...It is already hard parenting kids and teens together how much more if one is not there. It takes two to be much effective in raising a child because two is better than one. But in cases where the absence of one can’t be avoided then it is best that you get another hand to help and give them <a href="http://www.militaryschools411.com/" rel="nofollow">the education</a> that will guide them to what is right and wrong.Almanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-479371371212305020.post-22412780236506248042012-04-13T17:08:14.489-04:002012-04-13T17:08:14.489-04:00I agree with the fact that there has to be a great...I agree with the fact that there has to be a great great bond between husband and wife and if not the family will fail. Ours did because i never got any attention from my partner. I wish things were different.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-479371371212305020.post-20572581930147531972012-04-13T12:22:29.125-04:002012-04-13T12:22:29.125-04:00I have seen families broken because of child-cente...I have seen families broken because of child-centered marriages. I grew up in a God-centered home which built it's foundation on God' plan for marriage, which didn't "take a break" when kids came along. I only hope that my marriage will continue to grow stronger when we begin having children. That means that the kids may not be able to sign up for every activity under the sun so that Mom and Dad can spend some quality time together at least once a week.Abenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-479371371212305020.post-53432418219224140822012-04-13T10:59:11.401-04:002012-04-13T10:59:11.401-04:00Other mother, you too are a hero and I admire your...Other mother, you too are a hero and I admire your bravery!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03538079563022540571noreply@blogger.com