tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-479371371212305020.post5643688018095403714..comments2023-05-28T05:16:24.334-04:00Comments on The Father Factor: Parenting is Still a Code Word for “Mothering”Roland Warrenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03950298999478536463noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-479371371212305020.post-1635535468928067532012-04-06T12:23:48.342-04:002012-04-06T12:23:48.342-04:00I guess I see this as a 'both-and' situati...I guess I see this as a 'both-and' situation. We certainly need to get more focus on programs specifically for Dads (new research on the importance of appropriate roughhousing with boys, as one example). However, the more we can make the co-parenting of children the norm, with support and programs to help parents help their kids and each other, the better.Tom Moberghttp://www.mobergconsulting.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-479371371212305020.post-66558783833521136032012-04-04T16:13:46.979-04:002012-04-04T16:13:46.979-04:00Important point that is made especially tough by t...Important point that is made especially tough by the court system's antiquated views and if your ex-spouse refuses to be a teammate. Just like single moms can do it...so can we. But while absentee fathers tend to disappear...SOME female ex-spouses are bitter enough to make Dad's job tougher. There is significant stigma for a mother to "just leave"--even though in SOME cases...it may be more helpful.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-479371371212305020.post-75533972366926572312012-04-02T16:05:09.824-04:002012-04-02T16:05:09.824-04:00The NYS courts don't see fathers as having equ...The NYS courts don't see fathers as having equal rights to guide the development of their child. The mother can use order of protection to keep a father away from and speaking to a child for months without proper justification.Willerthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03024619585274595840noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-479371371212305020.post-47620961734992785972012-03-27T17:01:40.473-04:002012-03-27T17:01:40.473-04:00“Parenting is a code word for ‘mothering.’”
That...“Parenting is a code word for ‘mothering.’” <br /><br />That's a story that needs to change.Jasonhttp://goodsirs.netnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-479371371212305020.post-32898531938371582732012-03-26T17:52:24.488-04:002012-03-26T17:52:24.488-04:00Heh. Have you talked to Amazon about their poorly-...Heh. Have you talked to Amazon about their poorly-named 'Amazon Mom' program (of which I, and not my wife, am a member)?Dr. Erniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08937284969266444762noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-479371371212305020.post-78420642934618815102012-03-26T16:40:56.711-04:002012-03-26T16:40:56.711-04:00There's very, very different standards. It wor...There's very, very different standards. It works in both directions, though. For example, dads that stick around and don't leave after the kid is born are given a pat on the back. Like simply being in the house still constitutes having done something spectacular. You never see this attitude towards women who stick around after the kid is born. With us, it goes without saying. Yes, parenting should include both sides, however, historically, this simply isn't the case. We are making progress, but it is slow. Another example. Have you ever looked at how the stay at home dads get treated by the stay at home moms at the park? <br /><br />"The child psychologist who thought she had all the answers to parenting until she became one herself." www.themommypsychologist.comthe mommy psychologisthttp://www.themommypsychologist.comnoreply@blogger.com